GUIDE TO GENDER

“Gender is the social, cultural, and mental state of being male, female, a combination of the two, or neither. It has to do with how somebody feels inside rather than what they look like.” - excerpt from A Quick & Easy Guide to Queer and Trans Identities

The queer community is expanding quickly--with the internet as a helpful tool--but it is extremely overwhelming to grow up with little information due to the loss of queer elders during the AIDS crisis. Queer kids have to navigate TERF (definition below) rhetoric, transmedicalists (definition below) preying on vulnerable trans folks, and fast paced pronoun discourse without much guidance. Societies are violently impacted by colonial understandings of the gender binary; transphobia is a colonial legacy of white supremacy with trans people of color overwhelmingly impacted by this colonial narrative. There are many terms that have been around for a long time just now entering mainstream conversations and it’s vital to be able to navigate them in order to create space for productive conversations and safe communities.

This gender guide is meant to provide resources for the CSW community that can be hard to find! The collection can’t cover all the bases or be a 101 Guide To Being Queer, but the library is always place to start!

A STUDENT PERSONAL STATEMENT

I wanted to make a small collection of books regarding gender for the abundance of young queer kids that attend CSW, and for the teachers that still misgender us despite being corrected over and over.

Reserving much of my reading time to consuming books about gender is affirmation that I am not just a tool for cis people to learn from, a subplot in movies, or a liability in front of my grandparents during the holidays. These books are lovely-- if you are cis or straight, I hope you read these and continue to seek out other means of education consistently throughout your life. If you’re queer or questioning or curious, I hope you read them once or twice or a thousand times to remind yourself you are sacred!

-Lizzi Cronin, they/he, 2021, CSW LIBRARY AMBASSADOR 2020-2021

GLOSSARY OF TERMS YOU MAY ENCOUNTER

Disclaimer: These definitions are not void of my personal experience and knowledge; definitions are subject to change as are most things. - Lizzi Cronin, they/he '21

TERF - stands for trans exclusionary radical feminist; self-proclaimed feminists who do not believe trans woman are women utilizing biological determinism in their rhetoric

TRANSMEDICALIST - the belief that one must experience dysphoria in order to be transgender, often accompanied with the “belief” that nonbinary genders are invalid

NON BINARY - people who feel their gender cannot be defined within the margins of the gender binary

GENDER DYSPHORIA - a feeling of distress, anxiety, discomfort, unhappiness, etc. that trans people experience when they feel a disconnect between their gender identity and their bodies or experiences

GENDER FLUID - a person who does not have a fixed gender

GENDER NON- CONFORMING (GNC) - a label that can be used for someone whose presentation or behavior doesn’t align with the societal expectations of their gender

GENDERQUEER - someone who doesn’t subscribe to cisgender distinctions but identifies with neither, both, or a combination

TRANSGENDER - a person whose gender identity is different than the gender given to them at birth

GENDER AFFIRMING SURGERY - surgical procedures that change one’s body to fit their gender identity; may include top surgery (breast augmentation or removal) or bottom surgery (altering genitals)

CISGENDER - a person who identifies with the gender given to them at birth

CROSS DRESSING - the act of wearing clothing not commonly associated with one's gender

INTERSEX - a person born with anatomy that doesn’t fit the boxes of “female” or “male”

TWO SPIRIT - an exclusively pan-Indigenous identity referring to a person with both a masculine and feminine spirit (not to be confused with tribally distinct definitions for non-binary and trans folks)

T4T - stands for trans for trans; a trans person only interested romantically/sexually in other trans people

FEMME - a term often used to describe a person whose gender expression is considered feminine

MASC - a term often used to describe a person whose gender expression is considered masculine

AMAB - assigned male at birth

AFAB - assigned female a birth

NEO PRONOUNS - pronouns that are often used in place of “she”, “he” or “they”, examples include xe/xem/xyr, ze/hir/hirs, fae/faer/faers, and ey/em/eir

BOOKS IN THE CSW COLLECTION

STONE BUTCH BLUES

By LESLIE FEINBERG


A foundational, queer text that is so dear to my heart, the story follows Jess Goldberg growing up in upstate New York in the 1940s and her struggle with her gender and her sexuality. She’s caught in her father’s clothes and sent to a mental hospital, then escapes her school and family by running away, finding community in a gay bar in Buffalo. Quite a difficult book to find as a physical copy, the author’s last words were “remember me as a queer communist” and did not sign any commercial publishing contracts. I could rant and rave about how fundamental butch lesbians are to the queer community but you should read this book instead!

The author's work has been made available for free download in zie's honor here.

GENDER QUEER

by MAIA KOBABE

A painfully honest graphic novel about growing up gender non-conforming. A really intimate autobiography that talks about coming out to family, teen crushes, bonding over erotic fan fiction with friends, and pronoun changes. A favorite that circulates the library quite often!

Black on both sides: A racial history of trans identity

by C. RILEY SNORTON


“Drawing on a deep and varied archive of materials-early sexological texts, fugitive slave narratives, Afro-modernist literature, sensationalist journalism, Hollywood films-- Snorton attends to how slavery and the production of racialized gender provided the foundations for an understanding on gender as mutable.” The story follows the intersection of blackness and transness, the ties between “cross-dressing” and “racial passing”, the harm of historically white trans narratives, the development of gynecology and the construction of sex. Snorton presents the lives of Black trans people--like Lucy Hicks Anderson and Ava Betty Brown--with beautiful, in-depth, and imaginative research. A groundbreaking book, an essential read in trans studies that constructs a more livable Black and trans world.

Gender Outlaws

by KATE BORNSTEIN and S. BEAR BERGMAN


This book is full of comics, short stories, scripts, a really good vegan curry recipe, conversations, poetry and beautiful people. This is not an academic book but a place to see queer people in the bedroom, on the stage, in the streets, in the news and in the workplace, an impressive anthology of queer voices. One of the first books I read that gave me a lot of hope for growing up into a queer adult. I recommend reading Stone Butch Blues before or along with this book!



I HOPE WE CHOOSE LOVE: A TRANS GIRL'S NOTES FROM THE END OF THE WORLD

by KAI CHENG THOM


A moving and interesting collection of poetry and personal essays, reflections on harm, repair and the ways we betray each other in the queer community. This book should be read slowly and discussed with friends!



BEYOND THE GENDER BINARY

by ALOK VAID-MENON


A quick read grounded in academic theory that I think everyone should pick up that focuses on the obligation we all have to each other to move beyond the gender binary. If you don't normally read books or have trouble focusing I recommend this book, the illustrations are really engaging and Alok’s poetry is lovely. A really good book to give a parent or a younger sibling!



A quick and easy guide to queer and trans identities

by MADY G & J.R. ZUCKERBERG

Queer snails talk about gender and humans provide context! The perfect primer for people who are new to the LGBTQ community. The comic discusses gender, sexuality, relationships and health with accessible language and clear definitions. The relationship section is so important and gently covers things like self esteem and recognizing abuse. The authors move away from the format of focusing on queer pain when discussing trans experiences and illustrate positive experiences.

We have always been here: a queer muslim memoir

by SAMRA HABIB

Writer, photographer and activist Samra Habib’s first book asks “How do you find yourself in a world that tells you you don’t exist?”. This book follows Samra Habib through growing up as an Ahmadi Muslim in Pakistan to her identity as a queer Muslim refugee in Canada exploring her sexuality, faith, and creativity along with forgiveness and family.

the left hand of darkness

by URSULA K. LE GUIN

“No I don’t mean love, when I say patriotism. I mean fear. The fear of the other. And its expressions are political, not poetical: hate, rivalry, aggression.” A science fiction book from 1969 set in the Hainish universe that follows Genly Ai, native to the planet Terra but sent on a mission to the planet Gethen, home to androgynous beings neither male nor female. Genly Ai must navigate their politics and social ways all while trying to convince the Gethenians to join the united nations of the universe, Ekumen. Often compared to great works like Lord of the Rings, this is a beautiful and incredibly important work of vivid worldbuilding.

OTHER MEDIA

PODCASTS

LIVING IN THIS QUEER BODY

Coyote Park, a Two Spirit artist, oral historian, and educator speaks about their work and building a framework of understanding of gender outside of the colonial gender systems. Living In This Queer Body is a podcast of collective stories for and about queer people's connections with their bodies. I am a fan of Coyote’s photo work and this conversation with them and this podcast generally is a lovely resource for queer people to connect and tend to their isolating bodily experiences. “Our wounded bodies need spaces to talk about struggles with nourishment/disordered eating, body image issues, dysphoria, racism, heterosexism, transphobia, xenophobia, substance use/abuse, chronic pain/disability, body changes in parenthood, intergeneration trauma, the medical/wellness/therapy industrial complex and its lack of inclusions of queer bodies and much more”

ENBY SPOKEN HISTORIES

A storytelling archive centering nonbinary, 2spirit, GNC, intersex, and genderqueer voices. Another good resource for those who have trouble reading or prefers discussion and storytelling.

ART + CULTURE

This Queer Zine Archive is a preservation effort to document underground queer culture and DIY publishing. Can be used as inspiration for your own zines or as a historical resource!

An alliance dedicated to showcasing queer skaters and making skate culture more accessible to marginalized folks. Anyone can learn to skate!

ACTION-ORIENTATED

GC2B

A trans-owned gender apparel store! I got my first binder here and you can too!

SCHOLARLY RECOMMENDATIONS

A Scar is More than a Wound: Rethinking Community and Intimacy through Queer and Disability Theory by Karen Hammer

Queer Phenomenology: Orientations, Objects, Others by Sara Ahmed

Gender Trouble by Judith Butler